Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning ~ W A Ward

As children we’re naturally curious – it’s how we grow and learn – but by a certain age that sense of wonder starts to disappear.

Why?  Life. Society. Socioeconomic dynamics.

Answers are more valued than inquisitive thought, so curiosity is trained out of us. Being right is more important than being smart.

Regaining our sense of wonder is important, isn’t it? But if regaining curiosity is even possible, how do we go about relearning such a quality?

Well, wouldn’t you know it, I found a list (what’s a blog post without a list?) In case you’re … umm … curious. 

Habits of curious people:

1. They ask lots of questions.

Curious people ask how, what, when, where and why. This creates openness.

2. They listen without judgment.

The genuinely curious have no hidden agenda. They seek to understand the perspectives of others, and are willing to sit in ambiguity, open and curious without being invested in the outcome.

3. They seek surprise.

We feel most comfortable when things are certain, but we feel most alive when they’re not.

Curious people try new foods, talk to a stranger, or ask a question they’ve never asked before.

4. They make time for curiosity.

They think of scenarios that are three years in the future, question major assumptions, and wonder if they’re doing things they no longer should be doing.

5. They aren’t afraid to say, I don’t know.

Big one. It’s more important for them to learn than to look smart.

6. They don’t let past hurts affect their future.

The problem is that we stop being curious about new experiences and are instead focused on understanding what we’ve already been through.

This is especially true if we’ve been hurt in the past. Curious people, however, are more apt to take risks.

 ~  As for me, a recent conversation with friends on gender neutrality sparked my curiosity so that I buried myself in inquiry — I hope to share findings in next post.

What about you? What are/have you been most curious about?

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13 responses to “Curiosity

  1. Speaking of gender neutrality, have you read the book THE TWIN WITHIN by Lola Carlile and Stephanie Anne Stockton? It is eye opening! I have met both these women. The book is about Stephanie’s life. You can find it on Amazon.

    As the saying goes “Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought him back.” Yes, I LOVE mostly talking to people and learning about their lives. This is where my curiosity mostly resides. It is amazing what we can learn about the world and life. Have fun exploring.

    • No, I haven’t but I’ll look for it. I saw a movie starting Ethan Hawke that dealt with the subject. Woman born with both female and male parts some hidden within, found when she had to be treated for something. Rare cases, but they exist, and sure makes one realize how limited our understanding of everything is. Thanks, Gwynn.

  2. I loved this post, Sylvia. I guess I am naturally curious, since I spent my career as a researcher. Since retiring, I follow my questions hither and thither, to learn more about topics that tweak my interest (my latest post on Jupiter was a result of some wandering around on the internet). I suspect that all of the digital media and social apps that kids are into these days will stifle curiosity. I hope I can keep any grandchildren I have from starting out too soon with these devices. I told my daughter I didn’t think kids should get cell phones until they are in middle school and she looked at me like I was crazy! Then I reminded her of all the time she and her brother spent playing
    together and exploring!

    • Thank you, Noelle, and funny you brought up kids and devices. I have a 13 year old who didn’t get his first cell phone until 7th grade (middle school). Even that seemed early to me, but the issue was he needed to be proficient at using it, same with laptop, etc. or he would fall behind compared to kids his age. Many friends had cell phones in elementary school, but I said no. With time that ‘no’ will probably be harder to say with all tech advances. I finally came to terms with that, and the fact that we live is a very different and constantly changing world.
      Happy to read liked the post. Can’t wait to see what you wrote on Jupiter.

  3. I find I don’t have much curiosity, but not for the reason you’d think. I find that when I come up with a question, the answer appears. So, I rarely wonder for long.

    But, being able to say “I don’t know” is good. So many people won’t let themselves not know.

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  5. I think of myself as a lifelong learner. I’m curious. I try new foods, travel to new places, when I can, and I’ve been known to talk to strangers! I don’t always listen without judgement, however. That’s something I could work on. I’m curious about your findings!

    • Thank you, Mary. In knowing your blog, the food part … Oh, I so love your posts on any food related items.
      We all judge, even if we say we don’t. Working on it is better than most of us can say.

  6. Hi Silvia – I’m permanently curious … constantly asking questions – sometimes I need to quietly ‘shut up’!! But it’s fine … I’ve become like that since I started blogging and now just ask … perhaps I need another nick name: “Just Ask” … cheers Hilary

  7. I can’t think of too many conversations that didn’t make me curious about one thing or another. The same with reading. I’ll pick up on some little tidbit of information, and questions just start rolling through my head. Sometimes I then research the subjects purely to feed my imagination, should a new story be struck within me. But other times I dig around for answers simply because I have to know. It’s just like reading a book. I could never stop three quarters of the way through, even if the writing wasn’t the best. I’d have to know how the book ends. Likewise, I can’t watch the bulk of a movie and skip the ending. I’d never sleep. I’d have to know… :-)

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